Why Your Life on the Outside Won’t Change Until This Does

 

Hello beautiful human!

Let’s talk about the thing that keeps so many women stuck…

“If I could just lose the weight…”
“If life would just slow down…”
“If people would just treat me differently…”

The truth is, nothing on the outside changes until something inside you does.
And in today’s episode, I’m breaking down exactly what that “something” is—and how to start shifting it right now.

We’re getting into:

  • Why waiting for perfect timing or external validation will always leave you stuck

  • What it really looks like to change from the inside out (and why it starts with your body)

  • How nourishing and moving your body changes the way you show up in every part of your life

  • Why confidence and peace don’t come after you hit your goals—they start with how you treat yourself right now

  • And how your internal transformation will start to shift how the world treats you, too

If you’re tired of feeling stuck in the “almost” phase, waiting for something to click—this episode is your starting point.

You don’t need more time. You don’t need to look different. You don’t need to wait.

You just need to choose to show up for yourself, right now.

🎧 Want more on creating real change? Listen next to Episode 262: 7 Steps to Changing Your Life in One Year

If you want more from me, be sure to check out… 

Transcript

00:00 -

Hey, hey, beautiful human, Can I steal five minutes of your time? I have something super important to share with you, but I promise I'll be really quick. You're listening to my weekly bonus episode of Embrace your Real with me, julie Ledbetter. I'm about to give you a quick tip for building your confidence, honoring your body and unconditionally loving your authentic self. Stay tuned If you're ready to embrace your real, let's get it. Let's go. Hello and welcome back to another bonus episode on the Embrace your Real podcast.

00:39

Today's episode is a good one. It's for the woman who is always saying once I lose the weight, then I'll be confident, or once life calms down, then I'll start showing up for myself. Or once people treat me better, then I will believe that I am enough. Yes, this one is for you. The hard truth you're not going to feel better because the world magically rearranged itself for you. But the empowering truth is that you don't need it to. And so in this episode we're going to breaking that down. Why real change doesn't start with a number, a timeline or someone else's validation. So if you're tired of waiting for something to finally click, if you feel stuck in a cycle of almost but never enough, this episode is for you and if you not only want to build the body that you want, but also the life that you want and the relationships that you want and the career that you want, I'm going to tell you where to start in today's episode and spoiler alert it has absolutely nothing to do with anything around you.

01:32

But first let me share this review. It comes from AmberDenise007. She gave a five-star review and said forever grateful. I have always had a struggle with my body and mindset. I tried to lose, gain weight, to get my ex to love me. It messed me up so much and caused so much damage to me. Long-term. These podcasts have helped me so much. They were like my lifeline at times. They have helped me accept myself and my body, develop a new mindset and realize that I'm truly worth it. I am much more accepting of myself and I've learned to give myself a bit more grace while still working hard to reach my goals.

02:07

Thank you, julie, for all you do and your role of helping me get into this place of peace and happiness. I love this so much, amber. I am so proud of you. I could not be more proud to just read this and I feel it. I feel it through your words, and I am so incredibly grateful that these podcasts are helping you. Thank you so much for just taking time out of your day to send that. I know that your guys' time is so limited. Trust me, now that I'm a mom, I get it. Time is so limited, and so the fact that you took a few minutes out of your day to send this in makes me so appreciative. And so if you guys, if you could scooch over to Apple Podcasts and leave a rating interview these episodes are free for you but all I ask in return is that you just leave either a rating if you're on Spotify, or a review if you're on Apple Podcasts. That would mean the absolute world to me, and our team Just kind of know how these podcasts, or a specific episode in general, has helped you. So thank you in advance for doing that.

03:03

Here's a quote that I love that says nothing around you will change until something within you does, and I really want you to sit with that for a second, like let it sink in not just in your head but in your heart, because how many times have we thought that once our circumstances change, then we'll finally feel better, like once I lose the weight, then I'll feel confident. Once I get more support at home, then I'll finally be consistent. Once people start treating me better, then I'll believe I'm worthy of love, attention or taking up space. But, sister, can I gently challenge that? That's not how transformation actually works. It's not once the world changes then we will. It's when we change then the world around us starts to reflect it. Let me repeat that again it's when we change, then the world around us starts to reflect it.

03:52

You cannot wait for your environment to shift before you decide to shift internally. You can't keep outsourcing your peace, your confidence, your joys, your success, your happiness, the life that you want or the body that you want, to something or someone outside of you, because that thing, that perfect moment that someday it may never come, in fact it most likely will never come. And if all you're ever doing is waiting for that shift to happen outside of you, but you, you're here now and that means that you get to choose differently now. Let me tell you something If you're constantly putting yourself last, if you're filling everyone else's cup and letting yours stay empty, if you're waiting until you hit a goal to finally start treating yourself with kindness, you're robbing yourself of the very transformation that you're chasing. The outside will never shift until your internal patterns do your habits, your thoughts, your self-talk, your belief, how you treat your body, how you speak to your body, how you respect your body.

04:53

So now you understand that the shift needs to start on the inside. But what does that really look like? I know that can feel very abstract, like, okay, julie, that's great, I get it, but what do I do with that? How do I actually start changing from the inside out? Here's what I want you to focus on first, start with how you treat your body, because so often when we talk about growth or transformation, we skip straight to mindset, work, motivation or some big identity shift.

05:23

And while, yes, all of that matters, the truth is that your body is the vessel you live your entire life, and when your body doesn't feel good, when it's undernourished or overworked or ignored or punished, everything else feels harder. So if you're stuck, if you're spinning your wheels, if you're waking up every day feeling off, depleted, unmotivated, unhappy, disconnected, start there. Start with your body. Start by asking am I fueling myself in a way that actually supports me? Am I honoring my body with movement? Am I moving in a way that feels empowering, not like punishment. Am I treating my body like someone I love or like someone I'm constantly trying to fix? Because, let me tell you, when you start nourishing your body with what it truly needs, your energy improves, your mood stabilizes, your confidence grows.

06:10

And when you start honoring your body with movement, not as a way to earn food or shrink yourself, but as a way to build strength and connection, you start walking through life differently. You're no longer dragging yourself throughout life differently. You're no longer dragging yourself throughout the day, you're no longer dreading your reflection, you're no longer operating from burnout, guilt or frustration. Instead, you're rooted, you're grounded, you feel capable. And that's when your mindset starts to shift, because now your brain isn't stuck in survival mode, it can actually believe new thoughts, it can actually receive encouragement, it can actually build momentum. From there, you'll naturally start treating yourself with more kindness, more grace, more belief, and you'll begin showing up like someone who matters. Because you feel like someone who matters.

06:54

And that's the shift, that's how you take your power back, not by waiting until your life calms down or your body looks better, but by choosing right now to give yourself the care and respect that you've always deserved. And when you do that, when you nourish, move and speak to yourself with love, things change not just on the inside, but also on the outside. You stand taller, not because your body changed overnight, but because you feel more capable and confident. You stop second guessing everything, not because your life got easier, but because you started believing that and confident. You stopped second guessing everything not because your life got easier, but because you started believing that you could do hard things and that you can trust yourself. And you stopped chasing worth, not because you had a goal, but you realized it's okay, you're already doing what you're doing. You don't need to be chasing your worth. God loves you right where you're at.

07:40

And here's the wildest part. People treat you the way that you treat you. When you show up with respect for yourself, others take note. When you speak kindly to yourself, others speak kindly too. When you believe that you're worthy of good things, others start to believe that too, and suddenly your world feels different, not because everyone changed, but because you did so.

08:01

If you're in a place where you're thinking something has to give, something needs to shift, let this be a reminder. You don't need to wait on the perfect time. You don't need to wait on someone to validate you, and you don't need to wait on your body to look better. You just need to start taking care of her right now. And if you're unsure of where to start, this is exactly why I created two signature tools for you.

08:27

Number one get the Macro Academy Simple Online Academy. This is truly the simplest way to start nourishing your body with what it needs. You learn to give yourself the carbs, fat and protein that your body needs daily, so you're not under fueling or overfueling. You're finding balance. You learn to eat what you love in moderation, and you learn that no diets are needed. You can eat what you want while still nourishing your body. And this is for the woman who wants to stop guessing and start fueling her body the right way, without cutting out food groups, obsessing over calories or giving up the food that she loves. This is for the woman who wants to nourish her body with what it needs and start feeling great in her body again, or for the woman who doesn't even remember the last time that she felt great in her body. If this sounds like what you need, head over to MacroCountingMadeSimplecom. Again, that's MacroCountingMadeSimplecom.

09:17

And the second signature tool for you is. Gain access to my mood with Julie dumbbell only weekly workout app. So this app is for the woman who wants to be toned, defined, wants to also feel strong and capable, but also is real, like you have a real life. You don't have a lot of time, you don't have a lot of equipment. All you need is a few pair of dumbbells and a small space.

09:36

I give you five brand new workouts every single week. You can show up for two of those, or three of those, or four of those or five of those. If you have 20 or 30 minutes, I have a 30 minute option that you can do. It's three giant circuits. So all you need to do is, if you're 10 to 15 minutes, you can do one to two giant circuits. If you have all 30 minutes, you can do all three giant circuits. If you have more time that day, you can do the 60 minute version, which takes anywhere from 45 to 60 minutes.

10:07

But this is for the woman who wants a simple plan to follow, who feels loss and needs direction, needs a community, who's ready to build the body that she wants, so that she wants, so that she can show up to her life confident. And this is for the woman who also wants those workouts that are structured, they're time, efficient, they're effective and they build real strength and confidence at home, with a few pair of dumbbells and a small space To learn more and gain instant access. You can go to sale. That's S-A-L-Emovementjuliecom. If you are a brand new subscriber, you get 50% off your first month by going through that link as well.

10:42

Both my macro academy and simple online academy and my dumbbell only weekly workout app are to help you honor your body, not to punish it, to build a healthy relationship with food, fitness and yourself, and to finally build the body that you want and see shift happen in your life from the inside out. You can gain access to both of those by finding the links in the show notes and when you start, you'll start supporting your internal shift so that you can finally see the external results. Because, I promise you, when you start within, everything else begins to align and I would be so honored to guide you through it. If you love this episode, I know you will also love episode 262, seven steps to changing your life in one year. I will go ahead and link that in the show notes, as well as my two signature programs and tools that I have created for you. So all of that you can find in the show notes, but that is all that I have for today's episode.

11:35

I hope that you found this helpful. Share it with a friend, a coworker, someone in your life that you feel like would benefit from this episode. But I love you so dang much. I mean it, and I'll talk to you in the next one. All right, sister, that's all I got for you today, but I have two things that I need you to do.

12:00

First thing, if you are not already following me on the gram, be sure to do so. Julie A Ledbetter yes, it's with an A in the middle For that daily post-workout real talk, healthy tips and tricks and honest accountability to keep your mind and heart in check. The second thing, be sure to subscribe to Apple Podcasts to never miss an episode. Thank you so much for joining me. It means the absolute world, and I'm going to leave you with one last thought. The most beautiful women that I have met in my life are the ones who are completely confident and secure in being authentically themselves. Remember that beauty goes so much deeper than the surface. So go out there and embrace your real, because you're worth it. You.

 
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